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Tell your coach what happened
Start a conversation. The coach asks the questions a good friend would — if your friend had read every relationship psychology book and wasn't tired of you yet.
New — built with relationship therapists
You're not over it.
Let's figure out what to do next.
ExBack is a private AI coach for the days after a breakup. Talk through what happened, share the chat history if you want, and walk away with clarity instead of 2am spirals.
- Private by default
- No judgement
- Available 24/7
Coach
online · listening
Walk me through what happened the last time you spoke. No summaries — what did you both actually say?
She said she needed space. I haven't slept properly in three days.
That's a lot to carry. Want to upload your chat so I can read the dynamic before we plan a reply?
WhatsApp_chat.txt uploaded
Coach is typing…
The middle of the night
Breakups don't end at the conversation.
The hard part is the week after. The replaying, the unsent messages, the loop in your head that won't switch off.
2:14 AM
You re-read the same message for the fifth time, looking for a different meaning.
Tuesday
Your friends are tired of the topic. You're tired of being the friend with the topic.
Now
You don't need someone to tell you what you want to hear. You need a plan.
How it works
Three steps. No scripts you'd be embarrassed to say out loud.
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Upload your chat for context
Export your WhatsApp history and drop it in. The coach reads the dynamic, not just one message — so its advice fits your actual relationship.
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Get a plan you can follow
Daily check-ins, message drafts you don't have to send, and a clearer picture of what reconnection — or moving on — could look like.
What's inside
Built for the in-between.
Not therapy. Not your group chat. A coach that reads your specific situation and gives you something to do with it.
Your AI coach
Direct, structured, available at 2am. The Coach asks what you actually need to be asked, then helps you decide what to do.
Mira, when you need softer
A second companion with a calmer, more reflective style. For nights you don't want a plan — just to be heard.
WhatsApp chat analysis
Your export is parsed on your device. Only an anonymised summary leaves your phone — never the raw chat file.
A 30-day program
Daily journal prompts, small exercises, and reflections that unlock as you go. No 80 notifications, just one a day worth opening.
Anonymous community
Read what other people are working through. Post your own without a name, a face, or a profile to defend.
Private by design
Sign in without your real name. Your conversations are not used to train public models. Delete everything in two taps.
Privacy
What you say here, stays here.
You're going to share things you wouldn't tell your friends. The whole product depends on you trusting that.
Your chats stay yours
Conversations and uploaded chat exports are encrypted. They're never sold, never used to train public models, never shared without your consent.
Delete in two taps
You can wipe your account, your conversations, and any uploaded files instantly. We don't keep ghost copies.
No-name mode
Use the app without giving us your real name. We don't need to know who you are to be useful.
GDPR-aligned
Built in line with European data protection rules. We tell you what we store, why, and for how long — in plain language.
Early users
What people say after a few days with it.
It's the only place I could be honest about how badly I wanted to text her, without anyone telling me to 'just move on.'
Reading my own chat history through the coach's eyes was the wake-up call I'd been avoiding for months.
I didn't expect this to actually help. It's the first thing that didn't feel like either a self-help book or a pickup forum.
Honest answers
Questions people ask before downloading.
Both AI characters in the app — the Coach and Mira — are AI, built on top of leading large language models and shaped with relationship-psychology frameworks. They're available the moment you need them. For clinical care, therapy, or crisis support, please see a qualified professional.
Yes, and we've designed for that, not just claimed it. Your WhatsApp export is parsed on your device — the raw chat file never leaves your phone, only an anonymised summary does. Your conversations are not used to train public AI models. You can sign in without your real name and delete everything from inside the app at any time.
Yes. The product is built for anyone going through the end of a relationship. It adapts to your situation regardless of gender or who initiated the breakup.
No grand gestures, no manipulation tactics, no 'no contact for exactly 30 days' rules. The Coach focuses on clarity, communication, and your own well-being — and is direct when an idea is a bad one.
The coach handles that openly. The work shifts from 'how do I reach out' to 'how do I stop being stuck'. That's the more useful version of the work anyway.
Free to download and try. Inside the app you buy Credits, which power the AI features (Coach, Mira, Chat Analysis). Reading the program, journalling, and the community don't cost Credits. Pricing is shown clearly before you confirm any purchase — no dark patterns.
ExBack is a self-help and reflection product, not crisis care. If you're having thoughts of self-harm or are in any mental-health emergency, please contact a qualified service immediately — in Germany: Telefonseelsorge 0800 111 0 111 or 116 123, or 112. In the US: 988. Then come back when you're safe.
Stop scrolling her profile.
Start the conversation that helps.
ExBack is free to start. Two minutes to set up. Yours to delete.
Available on iOS and Android.